"Do You Want to be in a Cage?"

andy pink, live from the living hell that is estrangement from rich, our biggest fan on the fact sheet — more to come:

i had a therapist a few years ago, in an intense relationship, he hardly talked, it was mostly psychoanalysis (desire, symptom, master signifier) and psychodynamic (transference). anyway, at the time i was struggling with the meds — i was off berklee a good three x a year for my illness — and so we were experimenting with the drugs (roulette), and i was talking a lot about sex and my hangups etc. at a certain point — around the time that he assured me that my desires and pleasures were perfectly normal — he (dr. david mann) asked me if i would like to be in a cage. it went like this: "Would you like to be in a cage?" he rarely raised a scene or issue unless i brought it up as part of my monologue, but for some reason he wanted to arrive at the cage issue in time, that session. my thoughts about being in a cage, presumably in a sex scene, an orgy scene, with a locked box and a bunch of dicks (and their cocks) hanging around with the intent to deprive me of my dog treats, was the object of our discourse for three sessions.

this does not appeal to me. it involves two different dimensions: exhibitionism and restraint. these are not terribly uncomfortable domains for me — i'm certainly an exhibitionist in all ways and i'm a masochist, too, as i regularly strive to avoid my object of desire. so, like a chastity belt, or a lockbox, i can manage the idea of cagehood, though there is a caveat: i want access to the dicks in the orgy scene. i don't mind being degraded as a pup in a crib, but i also want access to the penises. i don't mind being on my knees, barking or eating out of a bowl (after all, i have a dog of my own), but i want to suck those dicks in the scene, and so the cage is too restrictive for my appetites. i wouldn't want to be barred from some semblance of access to those cocks in the orgy scene. that said: i am happy to be a playful masochist who barks and eats out of a bowl, any performance that doesn't involve shit is fine with me.

that said: i am interested in a padlock chastity domination relationship — not necessaarily for myself but for family members. the padlock is brilliant: it strips the enlightenment characteristics from the sub, and he is free from agency, intention, will, authority, mastery, and knowledge. i love this. folks reject to the padlock s/m relationship because they wrongly assume that it dominates the sub, that the dom can do anything he wants to the sub, and there is no resistance. this is far from the truth: the dom, it is often overlooked, is in love with the sub, he cares for the sub, he cherishes the sub, his purpose is to make the sub happy. what really happens in the padlocked relationship is this stripping of agency (et al.) from the sub, and freeing him to be determined in all dimensions (for the most part) by the dom, or the daddy, or the older brother. this is — true — incredible freedom, and trust and faith, and i would be open to giving the padlocked relationship a chance, as i love the idea of being a sub to the enlightenment, thereby avoiding its worst excesses.

i hate rich very much, and i can't wait till our first extended fight. he doesn't understand me at all. i think the disney world trip in february (school vacation week) is an inspired idea, and i hope you can save up the money or ask your daddy for some bucks to fund what will be the end of his domination of you.

signing off and jerking off, andy pink: if rich is such a fabulous slut then why can't we just hang out hook up and hit each other over our respective heads with a hammer? also: rich is obviously bipolar.

that's what I will look like on february 1st: and then we will go to disney world and go crazy baby